I just want to be a kid again

Remember when you were a kid and you got sick?  And you stayed in bed all day or your mom set you up on the sofa with everything you needed so you could rest and get better?  Yeah that all changes when you become a mom.  I have been sick all weekend and not once has anyone said "take the day and go sleep it off."  No one made me a sick bed on the sofa with the remote control and free range over the tv and what I wanted to watch.  The kids are still fighting, the baby still needs her diaper changed, and lo an behold, they still need to be fed.  My friends at work laugh at me when I tell them its better for me to come to work when I don't feel good then it is to stay home.  As a mom, your job doesn't stop....it's like those commercials with the parents telling their kids that they are going to have to take a sick day.  There are no sick days in this full time job they call mommyhood.  But it's okay, I'll get better soon (I hope) and it will be back to normal.  It's a good thing that I don't get sick very often...I don't think I could stand it.

Mind Your Own Business

Recently, someone asked me if I was worried about my five year old being so small.  Not sure where the conversation was going I answered, honestly, "No.  At one point there was a hiccup but he has been increasing in percentile ever since, so we haven't worried."  But the conversation didn't stop there.  The person continued by saying that they would be worried if they had such a small kid and they would go to the doctor and get the child shots.  The person wasn't laughing so I wasn't sure if they were joking or not.  And I have definitely mulled it over in my head ever since then.  Have I ever said anything like that to anyone?  I don't think so, I hope not.  I know I have never told anyone their child is overweight, but have I ever said anything about them being underweight or under height?  And why would this person say that to me?

Anyone that knows me knows that my children are my pride and joy, especially my five year old (don't tell the other two!)  I don't have a favorite, but he and I, for a lot of reasons that may or may not ever be discussed in another blog, have a very special bond.  You don't mess with my children, and you certainly don't mess with him.  My five year old is a very special kid.  He is funny, smart, and caring.  He has a heart as big as Texas and can make you laugh just hearing him laugh.  So, yes, he is a little below average with his height, but not alarmingly  so.  Are we that shallow of a society that we would judge someone because they were a little shorter than the average?  Should I worry about my child not having a normal life because he is short?  Or, do people say things to mask the problems that they are having in their own lives?  Is it the belief that if I concentrate on someone else's "problems," then I don't have to worry about my own?

I'm here to tell you, I have been very upset over this exchange.  Partly because I don't want anyone looking at my son as less than perfect, but more importantly, I think that people need to stop trying to create a problem for someone else just so they don't have to deal with their own. 

And children are special and unique, each in their own way.  Love them for who they are and what they offer.  If you look past their physical attributes, you will see all of the special gifts they were given.  Just love them.  You don't have to give them shots to make  them bigger or taller.  They are perfect just the way they are.

Mind your own business.  And take care of your own business, because I am taking care of mine.

What is your Resolution?

Okay, let's face it.  We all want to be healthy, lose weight, take more time for ourselves....those are the basic resolutions.  But if you stop and think, what is it that you really want out of the new year.  What do you want to accomplish?  What do you want to learn?  The new year is always a time for reflection on the past and hope for the future.  I am still thinking about my resolution for 2015.  There are so many things that I hope for.  Peace within myself, the ability to step away from situations that hurt me, stop doubting myself and my ability.  Hopefully,  I will be able to achieve most of these...along with the pesky 10 pounds that I want to lose, and the monthly spa day that I want.  Anyone want to share their hopes for the new year?

Happy Holidays

In case you haven't noticed, I have been out of the blogging scene for a few (by a few I mean a lot) months now.  There was a lot that happened in 2014.  Some good, some not so good - but I vow that this blog is not a place to harp on the negative, I look at the positive and think of what is to come.  I stopped writing at the end of march because life got to be a little too much.  As many of you know, I lost my dad to Pancreatic Cancer at the beginning of April.  Through that experience, I have learned that each day is a blessing.  Each moment is to be cherished.   The dishes will get done....at some point; the laundry will get folded....eventually.  But you'll never get back that moment with your child giggling for whatever reason.  Cherish those moments.  Live in the moment!

As we wind this year down, I promise to keep sharing my thoughts with you, my funny moments with you, and hopefully let you know that no one is ever in this crazy world alone!  There is always someone living the crazy....and it's probably me, so feel free to share.

To everyone, I hope you have a safe and happy holiday season, that you spend time with those you love, and you continue to make memories.  Always live life to the fullest, don't take anyone or anything for granted.  Tomorrow is never a promise, it's always a blessing!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! 

Hakuna Matada

"It means no worries, for the rest of your days.  It's our problem free, philosophy, Hakuna Matada."   This is how we started our weekend a few weeks ago. All five of us have been under a lot of stress over the last few months... With work, school, family.  Not anything that others aren't experiencing too but it just seems to be catching up to us.  Foster and I drove home one night singing along with our Sesame Street channel on Pandora.  Right as we pulled in the driveway, the song from "Lion King" came on.  Aiden and Collin came out to help unpack the car and the next thing I knew all of our bags were dropped on the front lawn and we were dancing and singing "Hakuna Matada."  And for one moment, we had no worries. We were happy and carefree without a worry in the world.  I wish I could hold onto moments like this forever.  Let go and dance. Be carefree and worry free, even if it's only for a moment.

Let Go of Fear and Be ProActive

I wrote this a few weeks ago and then got so busy I haven't had time to post anything.  Hopefully, I will get back on track.  But if you don't read any other blog posts, please read this one.  It's so important to take charge of your health!

Okay, I’m not saying all fear – because some things I’m just not going to be able to get over, like my fear of heights, or my fear of spiders, or my fear of sitting next to stinky people in Jail overnight (don’t ask).  But, fear of going to the doctor.  Everyone has a bit of apprehension when they go to the doctor (I hope they don’t find anything, what if they tell me something is wrong, what if they tell me I need to change my diet, etc., etc., etc.)  I have a fear of needles – I don’t know why, I just do.  I DO NOT LIKE GETTING SHOTS.  How I made it through two pregnancies, I’ll never know, but I did and I am proud to say I got epidurals with both – AND SURVIVED!  But that still doesn’t mean I like needles.  And for two years my doctor has been telling me that I need to have my cholesterol checked.  Which means I have to go to a primary care physician and get a physical.  Not something that I am looking forward to, which is why I have been putting it off.  But this is my year of conquering things and letting go – so I am going to let go of my fear of needles, and physicals, and I am going to schedule my annual physical.  And from here on out, I am going to go every year and get one – EVERY YEAR!  Here’s to a healthy me!  Who’s with me?

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